Men, this is for you.

Are women really THAT complex?

Men, do you sometimes feel like you couldn’t decipher our indirect language and dramatic behaviour at times?

Probably most of my male readers would do a slow repetitive nod for this very common question about gender differences so I decided to write something that (hopefully) could enlighten you on how to deal with the enigmatic behaviour of women especially in terms of our hobby of starting a quarrel.

This, however, will focus on one thing. No big deal—only one single revelation that I urge you to please embrace with all your being, just in case you would find this fascinating.

There is no secret formula to crack the code inside a woman’s brain, you would only be needing an open mind and a heart that’s full of patience. Again, patience.

Have you ever witnessed your wife or girlfriend who all of a sudden got angry and when you asked her what’s wrong, she answered you with an enraged I-don’t-know?

If you’re sometimes lucky, we also get mad for a reason—but most of them are merely minor and petty.

It’s undeniably true that we also say no, when it really means yes. That today we love you but then a few minutes later, we hate you.

That’s when you would give us that strange look and we would get into your nerves and you would scratch your head and probably get angry in return for the mystery of our emotional roller coaster.

Men, listen.

This is the real reason behind this unknown source of dismay:

PMS.

Lol, i know. I bet this is not like a new word for you but heyyy there’s something you need to know more about this, because Google would only define PMS as boring as this:

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a combination of symptoms that many women get about a week or two before their period. Most women, over 90%, say they get some premenstrual symptoms, such as bloating, headaches, and moodiness.

This is yes, correct, but did you know that the symptoms, most especially moodiness, doesn’t only happen a week or two before our monthly visit? The fact of the matter is, it happens to our well being with no time frame, with irregular schedules, and no whatsoever reminder that we’re already PMSing. Even the “P” that stands for “pre”, also stands for “post” at times. We find this annoying too, just as much as you do, because there are times we find ourselves in deep loneliness (sometimes crying) over something uncertain. This is weird, we know that, but you have to understand that it ain’t easy. To be a woman of moodswings, that is.

So men, forgive us, if we shouted at you and started a fight you with little to no valid reason. We don’t really want to, but the abrupt changes in our body on a monthly basis is really devastating thus making our hormones go wild that creates some sort of an imbalance. This triggers the rage and the fury as our emotions go crazy. We don’t usually admit these things to you, out of fear of sounding weak, or just because we think you won’t understand. But seriously though, we got this. We’ve taken it all in and accepted this as a part of us, being ruled mostly by our Amygdala, with little control of it.

Acceptance is the key to simplify our complexity. As contradicting as it may seem, but if you really want to understand a woman’s brain, you have to be extra patient with us and in return, we’ll be all-out with you in terms of love.

Women will never stop PMSing, even until we reach the inexorable stage of menopausing. We are created to be an epitome of ambivalence, with a mind full of emotional fluctuations like the stock market. But nevertheless, we’re not using this as an excuse to have the license to start a fight from nothing but pure moodswinging, but for you to have a broad understanding of this flaw and to make you realize that despite this inevitable situation, we can rather compensate through our sweet gestures and sincere expression of tender love and care. 😉

Ps. Survival tip: When we’re going crazy, a kiss on the forehead and a tight hug is all we need to stay calm. No words—just these sweet gestures will be enough to make us feel safe.

52 Comments

  1. Enni says:

    Oh boy, hahahah I’m PMSing ‘post’ right now and I could easily relate to it,. but thank u for making my mood 🙂 :* love yaa and right now I’m acting like a pure zombie – eating the brain of my BF :p 😀
    How I annoy him
    Me: hey
    he: yeah
    Me: nothing
    after a minute
    Me: hey
    he: yeah
    Me: nothing
    after a small awkward silence
    Me: hey
    he: yeah
    Me: nothing
    without wasting a single second
    Me: hey
    he: yeah
    Me: nothing
    He: scratch his head

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Lol that’s too funny! I’m glad you can relate to this, Enni. But do you also like start a fight out of nowhere when you’re PMSing? Haha

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      1. Enni says:

        yeah I do it a lot… I do this PMsing fight with him only , coz he is the only one who patiently listen to me . But sometimes this annoys me a lot, Coz i want a reply from his side … gggrrrrr
        I irritate him a lot yaar 😀 Sometimes i feel like to do kick boxing with him ….

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Haha you’re too funny 😂

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      3. Enni says:

        😂😂😂 even on My PMS

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  2. Pragya says:

    Bravo, Apple!❤ Bravo!❤❤❤

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hi Pragya, sorry i overlooked your comment. I wasn’t notified that you did. Lol but anyway.. Thank youuuu ❤️❤️❤️

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      1. Pragya says:

        Hahaha😂😂😂
        It’s okay, love😘❤
        Once again, Bravo, Apple❤❤❤❤

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  3. I agree with this and you made me laugh 🙂 haha
    But I also think we women should bear the responsibility of making our best efforts at not being such ways. Responsible for our actions and such

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Thank youuu. And yes you’re right! ☺️

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Lol whyyyy that face, Pantho? 😝

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      1. You very well know Apple😂😂

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Hmm 🤔 haha

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      3. Haha thanks for the advice though…We boys should learn something from this.

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      4. Apple Rae says:

        Thank you as always ☺️

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      5. You’re welcome Apple😊😊🌷🌷

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  4. George F. says:

    Thanks for explaining this to me. However, I’ve already advised my sons to stay single, so this may be a bit late in the game…

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hahaha 🤣 seriously??? Loll

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  5. Jokerswild says:

    And I thought PMS meant permute moods sporadically. I love this survival guide😁, that’s why the correct answer is smile and wave I hear. If you can’t handle her at her worst, you don’t deserve her at her best, that’s the TLC you give during PMS.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Haha your own definition of PMS is quite accurate lol good one. And yes you’re just perfectly right about that. 😉

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      1. Jokerswild says:

        Haha 😉! Whichever definition fits, I loved your write up, it was awesome.💕

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Aw you’re sweet, thank you! 💙

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  6. A quote from one my favorite scenes in The Gods Must Be Crazy…
    Steyn: How come suddenly you’re an expert on women?

    Mpudi: I got seven wives. How many you got?

    Steyn: So why aren’t you at home with your seven wives?

    Mpudi: I know how to marry them. Nobody knows how to live with them.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Haha this is a good one!! Lol 😆 does Mpudi’s last statement applies to you as well?

      Like

      1. Not really, I proposed to my wife on our second date and we’ve been together for almost 28 years. But I do like to tease her about Mpudui’s advice.

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Wow that’s amazing! Congratulations! You’re very lucky 💙

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      3. Yes I am. ❤ Thank you.

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  7. ~Curiosity~ says:

    This is amazing. You nailed this! I do this all the time, get really outraged at no apparent reason at my poor husband. Like you said, we don’t like this either but unless we medicate we can’t help. My one good friend however had some good advice, she said she puts herself in a time-out when she feels like she is PMSing or being irrational. I have tried this a couple times, it works sometimes:)

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Aw thank you, I’m glad you liked this post. Your friend’s advice sounds interesting, will also try that one out 😉

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  8. Ankit Thapa says:

    This one girl told me “even women don’t understand women.” That is when I stopped with it. I mean I stopped looking why. hehe
    Nice read Rae. As always thank you for sharing this wonderful article.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Lol fair enough. Thank you for reading as always too. You’re lucky that your girlfriend is a writer just like you too, saw the birthday ballad it was amazing! 😍😍😍

      Like

      1. Ankit Thapa says:

        I shared this with her, this comment, heeh

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Yay tell her she’s beautiful 😍

        Like

  9. Akriti pandya says:

    Amazing post 💙

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hi there! Thank youuu ❤️

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      1. Akriti pandya says:

        Welcome

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  10. Bartek D says:

    Last point seems crucial, although hugging a wild raging beast is scary and can cause injury it often helps

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Lol it’s definitely a risky but powerful act haha. Been a while eh? Have you posted a new story yet?

      Like

      1. Bartek D says:

        Nothing yet but I’ll stop the stagnation today and I’ll teach you some real magic in the next post haha

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Wow that sounds fascinating!! Let me know once the new post is up!

        Like

      3. Bartek D says:

        It’s up, nice and short to get me back into the flow.

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      4. Apple Rae says:

        Yayy will check this out now

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  11. I’m not fully certain I can forgive a woman’s moodswings, I grew up with two sisters and never saw a good side to the moodswings. I think the Greeks knew best, here:
    In retaliation Zeus deprived man of fire. But Prometheus was not to be stopped. He went up to heaven and lighted his torch at the sun and carried it back to earth. Zeus was livid with rage when he saw that man had fire. He ordered that Hephaestus create a mortal of stunning beauty, and when Hephaestus had done so the gods gave this new creature many gifts. But Hermes gave it a deceptive heart and a lying tongue. This was the first woman, Pandora, and a worse calamity never befell man.

    Women are creatures so fantastic that men can’t live without them but so terrible that men can’t live with them. The ultimate punishment is one that you don’t want to lose. Call it what you like, the Greeks knew what they were talking about.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Wow I didn’t know this story. And i like the paradox you just mentioned: “Women are creatures so fantastic that men can’t live without them but so terrible that men can’t live with them.” Anyhow, by the time you meet a woman you’d be so crazy about, you will then realize it’s going to be easy to understand this part. Understanding your sisters moodswings is a little different when it’s your partner’s, with romantic love in between the two of you ♥️

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      1. I get that proper love can soften the blows when a woman gets mad. I’m pointing out that it could be body stuff or wrath of gods.
        Anyway, thanks for trying to explain a woman’s situation.

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  12. Hmm well I don’t personally find women hard to understand. I find that all humans are naturally quite complexe and hard to understand male or female. We are complexe beings with brains capable of many a thing. It’s time and patience that allows us to understand one another. It is true that a lot of men say women are too hard to understand. However that is simply a way of saying you don’t understand something so why even bother. Well to have a meaningful relationship with someone male or female. Friend or lover. You need to be open. Open to them challenging your point of view. To them expressing themselves differently. Social context is a factor to take in as well. Men often have a harder time expressing emotions because they have been conditioned to do so. It is perhaps why they don’t understand them as well as they should when they see them in women. I believe that women need to be very patient with us men as we are very dense on that side of things. Men who have been forced to stay children in this aspect because of the weight of social context and pressure. Fears of other’s view on us like in my poem 😉 . But if men learn to let themselves be vulnerable- which may take some time. They can understand. It’s just an excuse to say we cannot. If you want to, you can. If you try to open yourself to someone else’s point of view. You can.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this piece. I hope all men think the way you do about women lol. May I know your name btw, so I can address you properly? 😊 Mine is Apple, obviously 😅

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      1. Issa is my name. You are 🙏 welcome.

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Issa and you’re a guy right? Hehe nice to meet you! Looking forward to more of your writings and I will comment each time I enjoyed reading your works. 😉

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      3. Indeed, nice to meet you! Thank you very much. I will make sure to read your works too. 🙂

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