5 lessons everyone should learn about LOVE

Love is my favourite. When i hear this word, I can hear his voice. When people talk happily about it, I see his smile. When people blame love for being miserable, it makes me question the real purpose of it, whilst imagining his enraged face due to our inevitable fights.

Love is so powerful it can make you the happiest and the saddest person at the same time. This paradox is a cliché, but only those who have experienced this 2-in-1 effect of love can only testify how ironically twisted love is.

Love is showing me these facets right now. Love makes me indefinably overjoyed, but recently it was shattering all pieces of me, including my state of mind, my weakened soul and my whole vulnerable self. I initially thought love only exacerbates the pain caused by a single person or situation but then I realized that love is only teaching me lessons. For me to grow, not only as a person but most significantly as a partner.

I have failed in love too many times it really sucks. I even thought once about abandoning love forever, but I couldn’t seem to do it. Love lies in the deepest layer of my bones I wouldn’t be able to just let it go. In spite of failing at it too many times, I still believe that once I have reached that level of maturity, applying all the lessons love has taught me the hard way, I would succeed in it. They say the most powerful advice comes from those who have been there, done that, felt it, suffered at it and eventually survived it. Hence, I will share to you the lessons love has taught me, despite the fact that love is not my expertise.

1. Love is not easily angered

Being a short-tempered woman that I am, it is quite a challenge for me to stay calm during fights, whether it’s minor or a major one, I couldn’t help myself but talk recklessly, resulting to a more serious damage. We should understand that we should not be easily angered under any circumstances and learn how to talk it out in the most serene way possible. Take a deep breath, hold your partner’s hand, and think thoroughly before you say something. Hurtful words will only aggravate the situation so be careful at what anger is forcing you to say.

2. Let love win over your ego

We had a fight recently and my egotistic self was too proud that I waited for almost a week before I spoke to him. I didn’t want to message first thinking it wasn’t my fault, but the repercussion of not following what love has been telling me to do (which is to talk to him) has made me the most miserable person on earth. Don’t let your ego eat you up, it will make you sick, it will never make you happy. Call your partner now and don’t prolong the agony you are creating for postponing the proper communication you should have done to fix things. In love, sometimes it doesn’t matter who the real culprit in the battle is, what matters most is how you end the war of love by apologizing and acknowledging the cause of it and letting love win just because love always wins.

3. Love is never selfish

When you’re the type of person who loves and gives too much (like I), you have this unavoidable tendency to feel tired especially if you think your partner is not putting in the same effort. This is normal because we WANT to receive love in return, don’t we? I mean, let’s not be hypocrites on this aspect, because I sure know you also crave to be loved just as much as the amount of love you can give to your partner. But what if it’s not identical? Should we find someone else that could give us what we want? Hell no. True love is not like that. Never ever count how much effort you are exerting in the relationship because love is never selfish. Do not accuse your partner of not helping you make things work because…

4. Love is spoken in different languages

It is purely true that each and everyone of us have different love languages thus we also perceive it in such a unique way. The way you show love may be totally distinct from the way your partner does it. Hence, you should never be disappointed if the love you can give is not given to you in the same form. Assess yourself to identify your love language and make sure you also ask your partner of his. Communicate it with him/her so you can manage your expectations and never get disappointed in the end.

5. Love is all we need

I don’t know about you, but this is what’s keeping me alive. My life has massively changed when I began to know Love. I don’t need no drugs nor alcohol to make me high, because love already does it to me everyday of my life. If you know how to love someone, you are lucky. It’s a privilege because I know some people who can’t even manage to love themselves, hence they couldn’t give it out to someone else. And if you are loved, you are blessed. Be grateful about it because not everyone can receive it. Love is all we need in this mundane world we’re in.

The lessons I have learned will stick within me as a reminder of the real power of love. Love is too strong no one can really break its purpose. Love is our fuel to get going. Without love, we have no reason to go on with our life. Love is an intangible gift from God. The best things in life are unseen just like when God speaks to us and when we close our eyes to kiss. Give love and choose love, always.

 

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47 Comments

  1. Great post, very insightful.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hi there! Thank you ♥️

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  2. Awesome thoughts . He’s a very blessed man ❤

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hi Lloyd, thanks for appreciating this piece ♥️

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      1. Enni says:

        I agree with you Lloyd …. ‘samjhdar ghar waali/ baahily’

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Hi Ennu! What’s ‘samjhdar ghar waali/ baahily’ ? Lol

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      3. Apple Rae says:

        Enni* sorry typo lol

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      4. Enni says:

        My parents call me Ennu they gave me this name but I change it to Enni now see my destiny it again turns to Ennu😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 now back to what is ‘samajhdar ghar wali / baahili ‘
        Samajhdar means wise, understanding ; ghar wali= wife As you are not wife yet so Baahili = Girlfriend 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

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      5. Apple Rae says:

        Aw then I’ll call you Ennu from now on! It’s your destiny! Haha. Thanks if im a samajhdar ghar baahili lol

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      6. Enni says:

        Yes you are samajhdar baahili 🙃🙃😍😍😍😍😍

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  3. Ankit Thapa says:

    Love(ly) post Rae. 🙂
    I really like reading your posts. Keep writing more

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Aw thank you so much Ankit ☺️

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      1. Ankit Thapa says:

        You’re welcome 🙂

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  4. Jokerswild says:

    Love this post and it’s so true. Never give up on love. An Apple a day is knowledge I say!❤️. Keep up the great words!

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Aw thanks, Jokerswild lol i wish I know you’re real name 😅 You always make my heart happy with all your positive comments. Thankkk youuuu ♥️

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      1. Jokerswild says:

        Lol❤️. You’re so welcome lovely, I love your reading your post, so insightful and fun filled🙂. And if you want to call me by my real name like some, then you can also call me Roy❤️. 🌹🌹

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Yay! Nice to meet you, Roy ☺️ thanks again 😌

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      3. Jokerswild says:

        😊. Nice to meet you too!!💕🃏

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  5. winnieukpai says:

    Awesome post💜 I have tried giving up on love lots of times, but it ain’t possible. You just adviced me on the right approach and I love it. Thanks

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Aw I’m glad my post has somehow touched you. Right, keep on lovin! Thank youuu ♥️

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  6. I believe in #4, and love is so complicated yet so simple, all in the same time 🙂 great text!! it feels it is coming right from the heart :))

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      It is. Thank you Ray! Have a fantastic weekend 😉

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  7. Enni says:

    So beautiful 😍😍😍 the way I want it

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Thank youuuu alwaysss Enni ♥️♥️♥️

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      1. Enni says:

        Ur welcome 😍😍😍😍😍😍

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  8. George F. says:

    So young to have such beautiful insights…

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      I guess I suffered early in time and that’s where these emotions come from lol thanks tho. I always appreciate your comments George! Can’t wait for your next post ☺️

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      1. George F. says:

        Thanks for reminding me I’m overdue!! Love your inspirational comments and posts!

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  9. Bartek D says:

    Despite me being only 23 I am with my partner for 10 years I can honestly say you know what you are talking about, love is something you learn all your life, I hope you will stop fighting with each other soon as its not necessary in love, great post

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Wow! Omg! That’s amazing! 10 yrs is just wow! So happy for you and your girlfriend Bartek and thank you again for reading and appreciating this piece.

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  10. Bartek D says:

    Thank you, hopefully you will get there as well without too many problems

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Thanks! Maybe i will, if you share your secrets to a long lasting relationship? Lol

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  11. The second point is very very important…

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      True. Is this based on your own experience? Hehe

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      1. Yeah kind off…But I have seen many facing ego issues after love, even after marriage. The result is brutal.

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      2. Apple Rae says:

        Totally! Let love win just because love wins anyway loll

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      3. Yes…By the way Apple has forgotten Pantho😜

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      4. Apple Rae says:

        Heyyyy I didn’t! Ofcourse not! Hold on, let me tag you, I need to get to know you better too! Post the answers when you can and notify me pls yea? ☺️

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      5. Hahaha 😂😂 Just kidding…Very well I will do it just after the tick-tock series I am working on. I hope you won’t mind?

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      6. Apple Rae says:

        I don’t mind at all, no worries. Will be waiting patiently for your answers! ♥️

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      7. Thanks Apple…Thanks alot…

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      8. Apple Rae says:

        You’re welcome! You just killed in on the first one! I just left my comment, just wow. Brilliant idea of a series! Well done, Pantho ☺️

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      9. Thank you so much😊😊

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  12. Beautifully written but can’t let love win over ego always 😐

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Well if that makes you happy. As for me, it’s hard that’s why it took love almost a week to win over my ego in this case lol. But thank you!!!

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  13. Yvrael says:

    I wish my love could read this, I did something that hurt her so badly that something changed her, how she felt, the pain she was holding, digging inside wrecking the love we had. I don’t wanna lose her she is everything to me, I wanna make things right and I’ll do whatever it takes to let love win! Thanks for posting this it gives me hope to fight for the love we had.

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    1. Apple Rae says:

      Hi Yvrael, just don’t give up on her, keep on fighting no matter what okay? Love wins at the end of the day. I’m saddened by what happened to you and your love but I’m hoping for a reconciliation between you two. All the best! I’m glad that this has somehow touched you. ☺️😉

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